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The Hypocricy of Hating Haters

Throw my soap box out the window, I’m no better than any other hater.

It hit me today:  If I hate haters, I am a hater too.  Ouch.

I accept that everyone has a different point of view and preferences are all over the map.  If you don’t like strawberries or tomatoes or yoga or reading, I don’t understand it, but I don’t think you’re stupid for it.  I don’t hate.

If you like your espresso traditional and without flair or fuss or additional flavor, which I do like, I accept that your taste buds are different than mine. More power to you.  Drink your espresso strait up.

But if you like your espresso traditional and you sneer at me and think I’m stupid for not liking it that way, I hate you for that.  Because that isn’t fair, or right or nice.  It’s not loving.  And it’s just not cool.

Therein lies the dilemma.  If your preference is to hate, shouldn’t I just accept that your preference is different than mine and love you anyway.

It’s like a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma.  Or something.  And it makes my head hurt.

Still, I press on down the path of not hating.  Even the haters.  I will love the haters.  I will.


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CLM Chapter 3: Gardening & Farmers Markets

If you read my blog at all, you know that I love my vegetable garden and I am out of control.  It is great and wonderful and the best thing ever.  I could go on.  And on.  But I won’t, because I’ve done that already.  Here

But I digress.  Back to conscious living.  One of the great things about having your very own vegetable garden is the impact (or lack there of) on the environment.  There are many ways in which commercial farming impacts the environment, from use of pesticides to pollution for transportation to retail markets.  Don’t get me wrong.  I love that my local grocery stocks a wide variety of fresh fruits and veggies year round, and I appreciate it even more during the winter.  But the truth is that the availability of that produce, especially produce that doesn’t grow easily in your region, has a cost to it more than just the price you pay.  And that makes me love my garden that much more.  Not only do veggies taste better strait from the garden,  (If you’ve never experienced a fresh tomato strait off the plant, you have been deprived and if you come to my house this summer I’ll give you one, because you just have to try it to truly understand.) and not only are they so readily accessible, but  it is so earth friendly to have your own garden.  And great and awesome, if I haven’t mentioned that already.

What if gardening isn’t your thing?  First, let me gasp and faint and try to comprehend how that could be possible.  Okay, I can’t really comprehend, but I’ll pretend to get it and go on.  Farmers markets are the non gardener’s best friend.  It is the closest you can get to your own fresh wonderful amazing garden.  Fruits and veggies are just almost fresh picked, likely the same day.  They likely haven’t traveled too far to get to you.  And when you shop at farmers markets, you are also shopping local.  Find out more about that here.  Wow!  Look how many ways you just lived consciously all at the same time. 

For those of you in the Tulsa area, here are some local farmers markets you can check out this spring and summer.  Here is a link to’s listing of all Oklahoma Farmers markets.

Downtown Farmers Market – Williams Green, 3rd & Boston, May to October – Tuesdays 10:30a to 2p

Cherry Street Farmers Market – 15th and Peoria – April to October, Saturday 7a to 11a

CSFM Brookside – 41st and Peoria – April to October, Wednesdays 8a to 12p

Pearl Farmers Market – Centennial Park – April to September, Thursdays 4:30p to 8p

North Tulsa Farmers Market – 2620 E 56th Street N – June to October, Saturdays 8:30a to 12:30p

Jenks Farmers Market – Riverside Pedestrian Bridge – May to September, Saturdays 7a to 12p

Owasso Farmers Market – YMCA – May to October, Saturdays 8a to 12p, Wednesdays 7a to 11a

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CLM Chapter 2: Paper & Plastic

One of the ways I am trying to live more consciously is by watching my use of paper and plastic products. Have you ever thought about how much paper and plastic we use? Grocery sacs, napkins, zip locks, plastic utensils and cups, paper towels, toilet paper (okay, I’m really not changing anything with that one, just making a point). We use a lot of paper and plastic.

So what am I doing to change that?

I am using (or trying to use) reusable shopping bags. I say trying, because at least half of the time I forget to take them into the store with me. But I am getting better. I still struggle with the plastic produce bags because I use a lot of them, but am not sure what I can use to replace them. Of course, when spring arrives along with my garden and lots of farmers markets, it will not be as big of an issue. (More on gardens and farmers markets later in the CLM.)

I purchased cloth napkins for the house. This has probably been the best part of this process. Cloth napkins are so much better than paper ones. We use them three or fours meals, sometimes more depending on how messy the meals are, so we are not doing laundry any more often than before. It is really win-win for us and the environment.

The hubs used to purchase cheap paper plates to use to cover plates and bowls when microwaving food so as to not splatter food everywhere. And while I appreciate his concern for the cleanliness of our microwave I did not think it was very green friendly. We now own a $2 white plate from Target to use instead. It works great.

When taking my lunch to work, I try to always package everything in reusable tupperware, I have taken real utensils to work which I use and wash there. If I do use zip locks, I try to only put things in them that will not ruin them; bread, crackers, etc. That makes them reusable!

We also try to reuse zip locks when we store fruits and veggies in the fridge. We eat a lot of the same foods, so it is easy to rinse and reuse the bags.

The upside to all of this trying to use less paper and plastic products is that by doing so you also save money. We are buying less napkins, paper towels, zip locks, and other items. Most grocery stores give you five cents off for every reusable bag your bring in. None of this is big money savings, but it all adds up.

Nothing I am doing in itself is going to change the world and stop global warming, but every little bit helps, right?

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Conscious Living Manifesto: Chapter 1

What is conscious living? If I am going to do this conscious living thing, I better figure it out. So I started at the beginning. The definition of conscious. According to conscious means “aware of one’s own existence, sensations, thoughts, surroundings, etc.” “fully aware of or sensitive to something” and “deliberate, intentional.” Among other definitions. But when I read these particular definitions they really clicked with me. At least for what I have in mind for conscious living. My own personal definition of conscious living is thinking through each decision you make, every action you take, including the impact those decisions make on others and the world, not just the impact to you. I think being fully aware of or sensitive to something really nails it. If I am going to live consciously I have to be fully aware of everything around me all the time. That is a big scary task. I have no expectations that I will live completely consciously all day every day. Balance must be struck in life, so sometimes my budget might be more important than shopping local or time will force me to chose convenience and speed over healthy food choices. Life happens. But I will try. I promise to continue to incorporate aspects of conscious living into my every day life until it becomes second nature. And I promise to try and write about it. Because things are easier and more fun when you share.

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My Conscious Living Manifesto

I have been thinking a lot lately about conscious living. You know how every once in a while a phrase or topic will come up that you’ve never heard, or rarely hear, and then all of a sudden you hear others talking about it every time you turn around. That is what happened to me recently with conscious living. I kind of got blasted with it. Books, magazines, blogs, conversations, etc. It’s been everywhere. So naturally, I have been thinking about it more and more. And I have come to the conclusion I should do it. Live consciously, that is. What does that mean exactly? Well, to be honest, I do not really know yet. Bits and pieces of it have come to me through all of these readings and conversations, but I can see it is an evolving, on going process. It is so big that I have been thinking about writing this blog post for almost a month now, but couldn’t figure out how to make it work. I’ve finally decided that conscious living cannot be contained in one single post that people will take the time to read all the way through. So I am going to do this piece by piece, one conscious living moment at a time. Every so often, I hope more frequently than I have been posting, I will talk about one more way in which I am living consciously, or trying to live consciously. There will be some little stuff, like being more green and shopping local, and some big stuff like trying to really soak up each moment. I hope by putting it out here I will be more inclined to stick to my intentions, and also that maybe I can spark some conversations about living consciously and what it means to others. So check back often, bring your friends, comment a lot, and lets make conscious living one of those topics no one can escape.

On a side note… I looked up the definition of manifesto, because while it sounded really cool, I didn‘t want to use it incorrectly. It means: a public declaration of intentions, opinions, objectives, or motives. How perfect is that? That is exactly what I want these posts to be. My public declaration of my intention to live consciously.

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